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hari1941
hari1941 Jan 1

New Year Resolution

New Year resolutions are made every year and are broken too. I am thinking of making a resolution that will be not only difficult but impossible to break. 

Before I talk about my New Year resolution, it will be interesting to know about my previous years' resolution and what happened to them. Truth is I came to know about New Year somewhat late. So there was no question of making any New Year resolution. In the village, we were told that New Year starts from Chaitra. Later on, we were told that it starts from January. Some said it starts from Dipawali. By the time I reached school in the town, it became clear that it starts from January for sure. The calendar hanging on the wall at home had both dates as per English calendar and Tithi as per Hindu Vikram Sanvat calendar. It was a perfect meeting ground for East and West. All office work in English and all Puja and rituals as per Hindu calendar. 

History of my resolutions

   1.    Whichever may be the calendar, there is a tradition of making resolutions was revealed to me when I started talking in languages other than my dialect which were Hindi and English. The resolution fever caught up only when the exams were knocking at the door. 'From tomorrow will get up at four in the morning’. An alarm was set but nothing changed, either I did not hear the alarm or simply got up and tumbled back on the bed. It was then decided to do as much rote learning during the day into late in the night but then again eyes would be heavy before long and would go to sleep assuring myself that rest will be covered by waking up early in the morning. In short, neither the resolution nor I became part of each other. 

   2.    After education, got into a job and started earning my own. Now was the time to indulge in. During college days, one Sardar friend introduced me to the taste of a cigarette. He never did it himself (Sikhs are not supposed to smoke) but he said he liked the aroma of it. He would bring only one cigarette at a time. Those were the days of tight pockets so it never became a compulsive habit. But now that I had a job and money too and on top of it there was this feeling that smoking is manly and adds to stature and position, it became a regular companion. Starting with cheap brands like Char Minar and Panama graduated to Wills Filter King and imported brands like 555. Some well-wishers tried to warn and some resolutions were also made every year but resolutions and vows are meant to be broken only. Then there was serious setback and Doctor said stop smoking or else….. What hundreds of warnings and resolutions could not do, was done by one pain in the chest. Some habits do not go by making resolutions. 

   3.    There is a long list of broken resolutions. Will speak truth only, will not give bribes, and will not get angry and so on. But most of them could not be maintained and the onus always fell on others. There was justification to -speaking truth does not help, bribing is a way of life, and things do not get done by being calm all the time. If there were a hundred needs for making resolutions there were thousands of reasons for breaking them. 

Now I think this year I must make some great resolution and live with it for the rest of my life. Took advice from friends. On some introspection found that I am already helping the needy to the best of my resources, trying to keep fit by morning walk, yoga and exercises, take medicines on time Etc Etc. There are some habits like love for tasty food and drinks, love and liking for all, helping people in need, not hurting others, no harsh words, living in harmony and so on. It is neither possible nor desirable to quit them now. Some of these must go with me particularly when there is no permission to take possessions like house, car, and money. 

After long and thoughtful deliberations within, I have decided to resolve as follows:

"I resolve that I will remain what I am" 

Howsoever hard I may try; I will not be in a position to break this resolution.

Wishing you all a very happy and prosperous New Year. 

 

Hari Lakhera 

Monday, 31/12/2018

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Babu
Babu Jan 1
Wonderful and unbreakable resolution n the eve of any New Year.
scsood
scsood Jan 1
Lovely resolution which can never be broken. 


From today onwards I will also follow the same dictum. 


Would like to be excused for copyright infringement.


Wishing all verdurians a happy, healthy and prosperous New Year.

rameshsinghal
Sri Hari Lakhera's life is quite similer to mine regarding childhood and smoking while in job.Ispite of all resolutions I could not quit smoking until Doctor (my younger son ) challenged me that either I quit smoking or else he will have  to think of relationship.From that day I quit smoking

Now I do not take drinks as it does not suit me


hari1941
hari1941 Jan 2

Quote from Babu Wonderful and unbreakable resolution n the eve of any New Year.
But very difficult to keep.
hari1941
hari1941 Jan 2

Quote from scsood Lovely resolution which can never be broken. 


From today onwards I will also follow the same dictum. 


Would like to be excused for copyright infringement.


Wishing all verdurians a happy, healthy and prosperous New Year.

Haha. I have already patented it. Happy New Year.
hari1941
hari1941 Jan 2

Quote from rameshsinghal Sri Hari Lakhera's life is quite similer to mine regarding childhood and smoking while in job.Ispite of all resolutions I could not quit smoking until Doctor (my younger son ) challenged me that either I quit smoking or else he will have  to think of relationship.From that day I quit smoking

Now I do not take drinks as it does not suit me


Great.! I met a fellow traveler. Yes, life is a story of promises made to self and broken too, smoking is one of them. Happy New Year. 
hari1941
hari1941 Jan 3

Quote from VAS

My Dear Cowboy,

 Opt & best post on New year day that i enjoyed it a lot.

 During my college days & on Marketing job in Telco & Ashokleyland some of dearest friends asked them to give company for Cigarette smoking & drinks but i didn't touch it till i finished college.After getting job i stayed in Chennai 71 to 78 with my friend in a residential apartment.One Sunday he offered/forced to drink quarter bottle of Brandy & cigarette.After drinking quarter Brandy he asked any feeling/kick i got.I said no,then he said that i will get only by drinking Rum that is given to horses & laughed.I din't smoke though he tried a lot & till today even though many of dearest friends offered i didn't smoke because it's harmful to lungs/heart.After joining Telco Marketing job in 1978 we enjoyed drinks in family get together as well on official meetings in star hotels.

 So far i never took any resolution on any New year day.

 As long as one have anything within limits without getting addict then there is no need to take any owe & break it.

 I have seen some of friends/boss to quit smoking after getting chest pain or stroke first time.

Very Happy New year Dear VAS.
muthurajan
muthurajan Jan 3
I never made new year resolutions because I make resolutions at a drop of head and then realize the practical difficulty later.
hari1941
hari1941 Jan 4

Quote from muthurajan I never made new year resolutions because I make resolutions at a drop of head and then realize the practical difficulty later.
Ditto 
shobham
shobham Jan 10
I had made a resolution long back and keeping it still . 

That " I will NOT make a resolution!"


However last week our local Dignity center had a discussion on this and one member Mr. R . Prabhu  shared his . I am quoting him , you may like it as we all did. 


What makes us happy? By ringing out the old and ringing in the new. New Year is the right time to make resolutions. Writing them down help us to keep them top in our mind. Let me tell you my new habits which I want to acquire. .


·     One week of vacation during the year. This I started five years ago when I noticed that some years went by without any real vacation. Knowing it in January will enable to plan accordingly. With this resolution I have seen some foreign countries. Last year it was Mauritius. This year it will be Bali.


·         Meditate for 2 minutes only. I do it after prayer in the morning.


·         Exercise for 20 minutes 5 days a week. Simple yoga or stretching exercises


·         Read at least one book a month on different subjects.


·         One drama or music concert or entertainment programme once in 2 months.


·     One totally free day each month with no agenda. It will make me peaceful. No TV, No mobile, No newspaper, Eat - light, moderate, talk less, read scriptures. It is modern day upvaas.  


Knowing  Him he will manage to keep them too. 

hari1941
hari1941 Jan 11

Quote from shobham I had made a resolution long back and keeping it still . 

That " I will NOT make a resolution!"


However last week our local Dignity center had a discussion on this and one member Mr. R . Prabhu  shared his . I am quoting him , you may like it as we all did. 


What makes us happy? By ringing out the old and ringing in the new. New Year is the right time to make resolutions. Writing them down help us to keep them top in our mind. Let me tell you my new habits which I want to acquire. .


·     One week of vacation during the year. This I started five years ago when I noticed that some years went by without any real vacation. Knowing it in January will enable to plan accordingly. With this resolution I have seen some foreign countries. Last year it was Mauritius. This year it will be Bali.


·         Meditate for 2 minutes only. I do it after prayer in the morning.


·         Exercise for 20 minutes 5 days a week. Simple yoga or stretching exercises


·         Read at least one book a month on different subjects.


·         One drama or music concert or entertainment programme once in 2 months.


·     One totally free day each month with no agenda. It will make me peaceful. No TV, No mobile, No newspaper, Eat - light, moderate, talk less, read scriptures. It is modern day upvaas.  


Knowing  Him he will manage to keep them too. 

I would like to do the last one and to hell with these groups, social sites and all that. But then I get scared -what if people forget me in those 24 hours and think I am no more and start sending condolence messages. hhhahhahahaaaaa.